This is fine for the under 25 year old for whom a change of lovers is a fashion statement. Our quest for a truly compatible partner has to happen from the head down-not the crouch up. We must be determined to approach our love life with a task oriented mindset. We finally have our professional lives in order and must recognize that adolescent exuberance doesn't work in matters of romance.

However, even our gurus turn out to be bogus. To be focused we must know what we want from the door.

So now...cautious efficiency has to be our modus operandi. Failure to plan is planning to fail. 50 Ways to Screen Your Lover When it comes to romantic expertise, most of us are very much like the weatherman. There is no shortage of advice columns and so called gurus who profess to have the magic formula for connubial bliss. We are wrong more then half the time, but still consider ourselves competent.

However, we mature lovers know that blind dates can be tragically messy time wasters.